What to Do When You Have a Traumatic Racial Experience

By Leonica Riley Erwin, LMSW

1. Acknowledge What Happened

Give yourself permission to name the experience as racial trauma. Whether it was overt racism, microaggressions, or systemic injustice—your feelings are real and valid.

2. Prioritize Your Safety

Focus on grounding techniques: take deep breaths, drink water, find a safe space, and pause before reacting. Emotional regulation is key to recovery and clarity.

3. Feel What You Feel

Allow space for anger, grief, sadness, or confusion. Suppressing your emotions can deepen trauma. Journaling or speaking with someone trusted can help process these feelings.

4. Connect With Supportive People

Reach out to those who understand your lived experience—trusted friends, cultural or spiritual communities, or a trauma-informed therapist.

5. Set Boundaries

You are not obligated to educate others or justify your pain. It’s okay to disengage from environments or people who invalidate or minimize your experience.

6. Practice Cultural and Racial Affirmation

Engage in practices that reconnect you with pride in your identity—read, create, dance, listen to empowering music, or affirm your beauty and heritage.

7. Seek Professional Help

A trauma-informed, culturally competent therapist can help you process the experience, develop coping strategies, and begin healing. Therapy is a powerful step in reclaiming your peace.

8. Rest and Restore

Racial trauma is exhausting. Make rest a priority. Sleep, meditate, disconnect from media, or do what nourishes your body and soul.

9. Reclaim Joy

You deserve joy. Watch something funny. Create. Laugh with friends. Racial trauma doesn’t define your worth or your future.

10. Remember You Are Not Alone

Many people walk this path. You are part of a legacy of strength, survival, and resilience. Healing is possible, and support is available.

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